The Gift that Can be Opened Again and Again

Guest Blogger: Deanna Bosco Sass

Living for Jesus Christ matters. In high school I became part of a small group of about eight students who met every morning at the flagpole for a prayer service.  This same group also asked the school board for permission to start a “Bible Club”.  And we were also part of a teen Charismatic prayer group in our parish, as well as teaching religious education there. But still, most of my classmates weren’t particularly interested in religion… until much later.

Others remember a person of faith. At our 40th high school reunion, amidst-the blasting music, the hugs, and the squeals of delight upon recognized one another through the disguise of graying hair and wrinkles, IT began to happen.  My classmates remembered me as a person of faith. And now some wanted to share their own spiritual journeys. One by one, my classmates shared their sacred tales with me:  tales of Cancer, (healing) divorce, (remarriage) death of parents, (becoming grandparents) unemployment, (retirement), loss of homes, rebuilding lives touched by loneliness, infidelity, drug and alcohol abuse. And in the midst of it all, many remarkable classmates found God, and they couldn’t wait to share.

An open door for faith sharing.
One story in particular touched me very deeply. One former loud and proud agnostic took me by the hand and said, “I want to tell you what happened to me. Five years ago, I was down to 80 pounds and in the end stages of cancer. Then I was admitted to the hospital because of a bothersome, but threatening, yeast infection in my mouth. In the middle of the night, a nun came in to my room, and wrapped a hand-knitted shawl around my frail shoulders. The person who made it prayed with every stitch, for the person who would receive it. And then she herself prayed with me. Right then and there, I accepted Jesus into my heart. I prayed to Him, as if I had known Him all my life, I cried, and I begged Him to heal me. That next morning I mysteriously ‘turned a corner,’ my labs improved, my appetite came back, and I began to heal. The cancer was gone. That was five years ago. Since then, I go to daily Mass, and I praise Jesus, every day before my feet hit the ground!”

We need each other’s gift of faith. It was a great delight that Jesus could use my witness of forty plus years ago, to prepare me as a ‘receptacle’ of these sacred stories from my classmates. They may not have needed for God at 17, but at 58 they had to a whole new perspective on life. I was so blessed by their stories. I left that reunion, with a heart overflowing with gratitude to the God who never gives up on us. Jesus pursues us with His gratuitous gift of love, until we are ready to receive it.

Deanna Sass is the Director of the Department of Pastoral Care, Diocese of Trenton, a Counselor/Psychotherapist, and a Spiritual Director. To reach her write JourneyWithYou@aol.com

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Five Gospel Tips for Facing Our Fears

“Do not be afraid. You are worth more than many sparrows.” (Luke 12: 3-7)

Following our presidential election, many of us are fearful about radical changes in the future of our country. Some find themselves weeping or complaining, like Jesus when he looked down at Jerusalem. How do we move beyond these concerns, you might ask? How do we experience the peace of the Holy Spirit?

Fears and worries are part of an early warning system that alerts us to the possibility of an upcoming storm. These emotions then trigger our imaginations. Fear or worry is not the problem. The problem is getting stuck in a disastrous, or short-circuited, replay of the worst that could happen, that cripples us in our capacity to love. We need God’s intervention into our imaginations. We must invite Jesus to enter into our hearts alongside these unproductive fears and worries, since such an unbalanced state is contrary to the good news of Jesus Christ, doctor, healer, and Savior.

mom-in-ropes-copyBelow are five tips for working through fear and worry as a follower of Jesus:

1) Give yourself room to worry.
Set aside a specific time each day to worry (10 min.) Do it at the beginning or end of the day in a place you will not be interrupted. Then move from ‘ worry time’ and into  personal prayer time, by calling on Jesus.

2) Tell yourself the truth.
Keep a journal of your worries: the details, and the possible outcomes. Telling the truth keeps worry at a moderate level. Such a level of worry can stimulate creative solutions to your problem. Write whatever solutions occur to you in your journal, no matter how wild or impossible they seem right now. You might also consider reading From Fear to Faith: A Worrier’s Guide to Discovering Peace by Gary Zimak.

3) Vocalize the things that cause you to fear.
Worry can ruin your sleep and turn your dreams into horror movies. Try to pinpoint the exact triggers of fear and worry. Share your fears with someone you can trust (who has a sense of humor).  And listen to your friend’s fears, as well.  Then ask, “What is the worst that could happen?” Listen to the details. Avoid unsolicited advice, but ask if you might pray a simple prayer with them.

4) Avoid extreme, paralyzing fear.
Break the train of worried thoughts by focusing on your surroundings. Describe the room you are in, what’s on a desk or a table near you? What do you see out the window? Breathe deeply and relax your muscles. Use your normal resources to moderate fear: proper exercise, proper eating, hobbies, adequate sleep, and daily personal prayer (15 to 30 min. to start).

5) Visualize transformation through Jesus.
You are like a poet, artist or prophet who has the sensitivity to spot problems, and to dream the dreams that will transform the problem. Take time to face the worrisome reality and see Jesus, walking toward you across the churning waters of your fears, saying, “Take courage, it is I, do not be afraid!” (Mark 6:50) Visualize what Jesus would do next for you.

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Before You Enter the Voting Booth

Psychologists tell us that many are suffering from anxieties raised by the tenor of this year’s presidential election. Whether you feel like you are drowning in a sea of confusing emotions, or infuriated by media soundbites, political views of friends, or the qualifications of candidates, here is a poem and an exercise for you.

p1050067Step One: For those who are overwhelmed by a sea of emotions:

Lord Jesus,

we are drowning in the storm

of this election season.

We are being plunged

Under the turbulent waves

of the turbid lives of our candidates.

Each day a new tsunami

of recrimination and accusation slams us

and we are drowning.

Send your Holy Spirit to us,

wash over us,

purify us,

renew our hearts

so that we sink no more

beneath the betrayal and corruption

of our own faults and those of others.

Help us arise and walk across the flood

into your loving arms. Amen.

 

img_8888Step TWO: For those who feel angry or attacked:

Remember, clear-headed thinking about important decisions, like voting, requires peace of mind and a willingness to forgive others who seem to block God’s mercy in your heart. So take a closer look at your reactions.

A.  Imagine someone whose action makes your blood boil, so that you feel like reacting in a very physical way. Now think of yourself as reaching for an imaginary tool that you might use as a weapon. What would it be?

  • Saw (to cut off the relationship)
  • Hammer (to insist on what you want)
  • Pliers (to hang on for dear life)
  • Screwdriver (to pin down the other person)
  • Another tool…

B.  What would it be like for you to respond with this imaginary way? How would you feel? What would happen next?

C.  Lift up your imaginary tool or get a real one and lift it up to God as you pray: “Lord Jesus, I have wanted to harm others with this ______. I am sorry, and I ask your forgiveness. I trust in the Father’s mercy for me, for those I feel offended by and for our country. I promise to seek forgiveness and peace in whatever ways you lead me. Amen.”

Excerpted and adapted from Mending Broken Relationships: Building StrongOnes by John and Therese Boucher

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